Are you also tired after building new habit by doing it quite a few days, then this is unfortunately very common experience for most people.

Basically, to build any new Habit there is a process which we should follow. And today we are going to tell you the same process in this article which will practically help you to build any Habit. 

So let's dive right in!

1. There is no fixed time period for habit building

Yes, you read right that there is no fixed time to build any Habit. Because every human being is different, someone adopts a habit quickly and someone takes a long time.

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But still many of us feel that it takes 21 days to build any new habit which is like a myth. 

Because if we go a little past and try to understand, it is known that Maxwell Maltz, who was a plastic surgeon in 1950, noticed that mostly after surgery of a body part, his patience was changed to his new body part or habit of changing it almost used to happen after 21 days.

Then Maxwell Maltz wrote a book in 1960 Pschyco-Cybernatics.  In which he wrote that it takes minimum 21 days to behaviour changes or new habits. He did not write that this is the fact or the same applies to every person.

But after reading this book or after reading Maxwell Maltz's quote, people felt that it takes only 21 days to build new habits and it continued to spread like a myth.

Even after this, many methods came like 66 days, 90 days or 254 days. But this is not right. We should maintain goal or milestone instead of depending on the fix time period which we will tell you properly in step no 6.

2. Follow only one habit

One thing that will become your biggest obstacle in this journey of Habit formation is a concept called ego depletion.

If ego depletion is understood in easy language, then ego depletion is a state in which we have used our willpower and mental energy so much that after a limit then we do not have self-control over ourselves.

And it makes a big impact in our new Habit building because in reality our willpower is also used in our daily life work, so it is important that we try to develop a solid and important habit at the same time.

So that the natural limited power of your daily life can suit your one habit rather than 10 different habits. And will power sent in this one direction will help you to follow that one habit.

3. Don't break the chain

Once a very famous comedian, Jerry Seinfeld gave a valuable advice to a new and budding comedian that "Take out an already fixed time every day to write to your new jokes, But the thing you have to follow is that you don't have to miss a single day whether you are in the mood to do it or not.

Because in starting of every year, Jerry Seinfeld hangs a calendar on his wall for the entire year and after writing a new joke every day Jerry crosses the day with a red marker and his goal is to not break the chain.

Because every day a chain of marking signs on the calendar in front of your eyes encourages you further that you have to do the same thing every day and do not let this productive chain break.

Also, this calendar will save you from all those excuses that all of us have to face almost daily. 

4. Remove triggers

Friends habit loop works like this as seen in the image below.


And to brake this cycle, you have to remove the cue itself, which you can also understand as a trigger, that is, if you want to put the habit of focusing in the study then do not avoid the phone by keeping it on the table. Rather, you should keep your phone in silent mode and keep it in another room.

If you have to make a habit of not eating junk food to lose fat, then do not avoid sweets, chocolates or junk food kept in your kitchen, rather you do not bring them at home.

And If you have to get up early in the morning, then instead of avoiding the snooze button, do not keep the option of snooze button or keep the goal to sleep early instead of getting up early.

So you do not have to avoid destruction or triggers but rather remove them from their place or do not have any option, if you do not have an option then how will you pick up. Got it?

5. Add your own you have it in your routine. 

A habit should not be billed according to motivation, trend or some moment of fun, rather you should make this new habit a part of your daily routine or behavior. 

And to follow that, we would suggest you to follow B.J Fogg's tiny habits concept. B.J Fogg recommends that you add your new habit with the things that you do daily.

Now this Habit can be anything, if your goal is fitness, then you can join gym on the way while coming home from office or college. So that you go to the gym before going home.

After brushing in the morning, tell yourself that after brushing it is time to write day planning or journal. 

Put a book on the side of your pillow so that it is your routine that you have to read the book after lying in bed and before sleeping. 

Because if we change our old routine only for our new habit, then we will not be used to it. Even due to this routine change, we can do quite quickly

So you see where in your present routine your new habit can be fixed, for which you do not have to make too many changes.

Now this time can also be that when you are mostly free, you can also use this time. Hopefully you have understood from these examples what we want to tell.

So instead of changing the entire routine, make the new habit a part of your current routine.

6. Reward and milestones

Following a new habit without a goal or milestone can be a bit boring or difficult. Because mostly people like results or rewards more than process.

Which is also necessary in a way for us to push ourselves daily. So you set the goal of small time periods, which you can also say is a milestone.

Meaning you have to set a goal for yourself for a week, 1 month or few days and after achieving that goal you can reward yourself.

for example You can eat food of your favorite place one day after going to regular gym till one month. And after waking up early every day, you can go to watch your favorite movie one day as your reward.

You can reward yourself by going on a trip somewhere with your friends after working daily for 2 to 3 months on a fixed time and fixed hours.

These were just some examples, you can choose your rewards according to your own.

7. Take baby steps

So, the secret of a long-lasting habit is baby step.  So you have to try that instead of taking a long jump, you take small steps.

That is, you practically give your new habit that much time or limit which you can follow daily in long term without missing a single day.

For example Instead of meditating for 30 minutes every day in the beginning itself, keep a goal of meditating for 5 to 10 minutes.

For your good health every day, try to eat only one powl vegetable compare to eating healthy food all three times.

Because that might make you boring to start and you can again do quite a lot. Have the goal of doing just one to two sales daily instead of 10 calls Plus headache. 

Change the habit of getting up just 30 minutes or 1 hour before your current routine in starting.

 This concept may sound a little easy, but this is a powerful method to follow small habits for a long period. Of course You can increase your duration or limits as time progresses.

Wrap Up on this

Get used to any habit is not as easy as you think. It can be easy for you to build good habit inside you if you follow it well. 

Well, these 7 steps which we have mentioned, will help you a lot if you understand these steps well and follow them for Habit Building.

And it depends on you how soon you get used to any habit. If you start building a new Habit with these 7 steps, then you will be able to build a habit inside you that you can also follow for a long period.